This week on the HERE.together Podcast we are releasing, in full, another of the episodes of the Remaking Manhood Podcast which I co-host and co-produce with Mark Greene. We schedule these cross-promoted episodes in part to give you access to content that we believe will inspire and inform you and this interview with Mark Winkler definitely meets that purpose.  This content re-purposing strategy also, frankly, saves a little energy for other projects like planting the fall garden and writing more blog posts about leadership and healthy masculinity.
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I’m really proud of this RM episode because, we get interview an expert in drawing men and boys into healthy masculinity and into supportive relationships. Mark Winkler, co-founded Manhood Camp, a non-profit working with under-served youth and families in the Los Angeles region. And works with adult men through his fatherhood circles and through the FATHERHOOD CIRCLE BLOG. I think you’ll find Mark’s voice to be an important and compelling one… his approach mixes firm accountability with love and compassion.

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Music Credits: Remaking Manhood theme music composed by Gus Greene. Click here for links to his music on most streaming services.  

Other Music: “Colorado-Slinkies” by trout recording

SHOW NOTES: 
Key Takeaways:

• When  calling men in to healthy or de-radicalized manhood, look for progress rather than perfection
• Progress in behavior is more important than progress in “articulated” change (i.e. actions speak louder than words).

Information, Background, and Projects:

• Mark’s Blog
• Manhood Camp for boys
• Article describing radicalized masculinity
• Gillette Ad - We Believe: The Best Men Can Be

Influencers and Writers

• The Will to Change - bell hooks
• Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys - Michael Thompson Ph.D. &, Dan Ph.D. Kindlon

 More about Mark Greene

• www.remakingmanhood.com
• Good Men Project
• Follow on Twitter @remakingmanhood

 More about Charles’s work 

• www.charlesmatheus.com
• Redefining Strength Facebook Group
• YouTube Channel (Includes 2 TEDx talks)

Other relevant HERE.together Episodes: 

• Re-defining Strength for the Challenges Ahead
• The Personal Impact of Men's Work

Dive Deeper on the Topic: 

• Remaking Manhood Book
• Little #Metoo Book for Men
• The Mask You Live In Documentary

Resources for Men’s Work

• Mankind Project
• Humen: The Men’s Mental Health Movement
• Rising Man 
• Evryman 
• Sacred Sons 
• Michael Meade - Mosiac Voices

Are you the kind of person who holds onto stress?  Who shoves it down day after day until it explodes in a glorious rain of expletives and recrimination.  Or maybe it just comes out a bit sideways and makes things uncomfortable with people you love. Either way, this episode might be just the thing to encourage you to let it all out, but in a healthier way.  Your intrepid HERE.together team learns how from our own experience and from the expertise of our guest, Tanya Keats, a coach who helps her clients cut through their personal obstacles, with the magic of action and adventure.  She also helps us navigate an on-air seismic burp. True to our typical form, we share what’s real and how we work through it.

Hello H.tties! Welcome to a volcanic episode that - spoiler alert - turns out ok in the end.  

What's Special About Our Guest:
Coach Keats works with all sorts of people on all sorts of issues, but the thread that runs through everything is helping others break out of whatever box they’ve found themselves in.  Tanya has her own experience with being boxed in and she didn’t like it one bit.  She’s spent her adult years creating a box-free life full of authenticity and adventure for herself and her clients. Today she is a Speaker, Integration Guide and Leadership coach who  guides her clients towards a free life, lived with ease.

Listen on as Coach Keats holds the space for Charles to have a mini meltdown - right in the middle of recording -  and then helps us process through it together.  We hope this impromptu coaching session will inspire you to make the time to express your full range of feelings before you’re stuck doing it at an inopportune time.

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Music Credits: 

• “Colorado-Slinkies” by trout recording
  
• “Everyone-Everywhere” by_Jayme_Stone

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SHOW NOTES: 
Key Takeaways: 

• Pay attention to what gives you joy, that might be your genius.
• Balance Logic and Heart.
• Apply the “Five Whys Rule” to your emotions and needs. 

Do a Science:Make a list of at least five accomplishments or experiences that are counter-narratives your negative self-talk. For example is one of your “tapes” is ``I never get recognized,” list examples of when you did get recognized. ​

​More About Tanya Keats

• Website
• Contact - 480-937-0876
• Social Media Links
  • Facebook
  • LinkedIn
  • YouTube
• Conscious Capitalism of Arizona
  • Insight to Action Program

Other Similar Episodes: 

• Episode 60 - How to Get Coached w. Ken Kilday & Tom Check
• Episode 46 - How to Be Emotional w/ Charles and Kelly
• Episode 4 - Opening your Heart w/ Tony Himes

Dive Deeper on the Topic: 

• “Your Elusive Creative Genius”  - Elizabeth Gilbert’s TED talk
• How to Be An Adult - David Richo
• Nonviolent Communication
  • Feelings List
  • Needs List 
• Shirley Valentine on Amazon Prime Rental

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Hello H.tties! We are re-releasing an episode with Adam Vellturo that we recorded way back in December 2019.

That episode was one of our most popular -  it was the first one to hit triple digit downloads. In it, Adam helps us  explore and understand nature therapy, deep ecology, the nature of the soul, and whether or not we're going to survive and thrive in the 21st century.

You know, fluffy stuff like that.

That’s how we roll on the HTP… inspiring, hopeful conversations with smart guests who can tackle the big topics.

Our pod-a-versery is coming up in a less than a month. We’re finishing our second full year of podcasting! And in recognition of that achievement AND all the support you h.tties have given us, we’re re-releasing this early episode. It’s a meaningful one to us and holds powerful, lovely memories.
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In this episode, listen for Adam's prescription for easy soul work and a recitation of a Walt Whitman poem that are both perfect for the cooler, clearer nights ahead.

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Music Credits: 
“Colorado-Slinkies” by trout recording
“Everyone-Everywhere” by_Jayme_Stone

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SHOW NOTES
Do a Science:

•  Go Look at the Stars: Every night for a week, go outside and look at the night sky. 

More About Adam: 
Adam Vellturo is a licensed clinical social worker in Arizona. Since 1989, he has been trained to help people of various backgrounds cope with a wide range of problems from everday stress to chronic mental health issues. Adam Vellturo has over 30-years of experience providing psychotherapy to individuals, couples and families. His practice focuses on adults and teens.

• Adam J. Vellturo Counseling Services​

Other relevant Episodes: 

• Episode 9 - Diving into the Heart of the Dragon with Molly McGinn 
• Episode 19 - Healing Others so We Can Heal with activist and educator Rowdy Duncan.

Dive Deeper on the Topic: 

• Books & Authors Mentioned
  • Ishmael - Daniel Quinn
  • Bill Plotkin - Important books on soul and ecopsychology
  • Joanna Macy - Environmental activist, author, and deep ecology.
  • Richard Louv - No Child Left in the Woods
• Programs that offer deep eco-therapy
  • Animas Valley Institute
  • School of Lost Borders

What if the things you loved to do the most turned out to be the most valuable in your career and your home?  What if tendencies that haven’t been recognized as strengths turned out to be the secret to your success?  What if we could all see and appreciate each other for our strengths and not worry so much about our weaknesses?

Guest Bio:
Micah Lorenc is a corporate management dropout turned leadership / relationship / team development coach. Based in Austin, Texas, Micah is a Gallup-Certified Clifton Strengths Coach and believer in the power of positive psychology. He has nearly a decade of facilitation experience, with an emphasis on strengths-based development workshops for teams, from start-ups to Fortune 500 companies.

Micah developed the ACRR coaching approach to ensure that all individuals and teams with whom he works will see lasting results.
Micah is a delight and he really helped us figure out some important things during this conversation.

AND it turns out that focusing on strengths is a lot like looking where you want to aim your car or your shot.  Stay tuned for a conversation overflowing with glass-half-full goodness, learn how to see your own strengths, appreciate what others bring to the table, and how to band together to accomplish anything.

​Other relevant Episodes: 

• Episode 70  How to Live Your Purpose with Rick Heyland
• Episode 69 How to Do the Right Thing II- the Un-Episode with Jeff Morrill

Dive Deeper on the Topic: 

• Derek Delgaudio’s “In & Of Itself” Trailer
• The Gottman Institute 
  • Article - The 6 Things That Predict Divorce
  • Article - The Four Horsemen that Damage Relationships
• Our budgeting and finance program - YNAB

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Music Credits:
 “Colorado-Slinkies” by trout recording
“Everyone-Everywhere” by Jayme Stone

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SHOW NOTES
Key Takeaways: 

• Positive psychology is a focus on what we already do well 
• Everyone has a different constellation of strengths
• Sometimes we use our strengths in way that is immature or out-of-balance and they then appear as weaknesses

Do a Science:

• Take the Clifton Strengths Assessment
  • (Low cost alternative, take the free Colors or Meyers-Briggs assessment) 
• Pick five people you care about and share your top strengths with them. 
• See where the conversation goes and what stories emerge
• See what you learn about yourself. 

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Guest and Episode Information:

• Micah’s info
  • Webpage
  • LinkedIn
  • Twitter
  • Clubhouse handle
• Kelly’s Strengths Report
• Charles’s Strengths Report​

Pick an Assessment
Gallup Strengths Assessment

• Background
• Take the Full Version
• Take the Short Version 

Myers Briggs Test

• About the Assessment
• Take the official version (paid)
• Take a free version - 16 Personalities

True Colors

• Free ​Assessment